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Teens/YA Binge Drinking, Hook ups, and Self-Esteem
January 25th, 2010 by Liza Wiemer

TEENS/YA BINGE DRINKING, HOOK UPS, AND SELF-ESTEEM

Okay, I’ve been thinking about this for quite awhile and decided I just had to blog about it!

Who or What is Driving You?

Lately I’ve been hearing more than the usual from teens and YA about the binge drinking that has been taking place on campuses and at high school parties.

Here’s what several eighteen-year-olds have told me.

Some of you love to drink.  You love the feeling of getting buzzed; you love having the pressures taken off of you by drinking, and though you end up spending the night throwing up in a toilet, it is still worth it.  It’s worth it, even if you sleep it off the next day, all day.  You’ve told me it is a right of passage and a personal entertainment choice, something to do with friends.  I can’t say this makes me happy.  I wish you would find other, more healthy ways to entertain yourself.  On a side note – I just learned in my CPR class (January 26, 2010) that those who are vomiting after binge drinking should be watched carefully.  There is a higher chance of choking on vomit under these circumstances, and if you are alone, you may not get the care you need!

From several teens and young adults (ages ranging from fifteen to twenty) you shared the following situations with me:

You drink so much that you don’t remember what happened to you.  Your friends (who can still stand) take care of you, bring you to the bathroom, clean you up, and make sure you get food in you.  Some of you are hooking up, and you don’t even remember them.  You drink so that you can hook-up, because without the alcohol you would never do it.  Unfortunately, the morning after leaves you feeling empty and lost.

I’ve been privileged to talk with you about it and it’s clear your self-esteem is so low, that it breaks my heart.

It breaks my heart because I think you’re amazing.  I think you’re beautiful – inside and out.  I think that you are incredibly bright, gifted, and have so much to offer this world, but are making bad choices – especially when it comes to drinking.

A few of you have been raped.  A few of you lost your virginity in ways that you have said were totally degrading.  (In the bathroom at school – not cool.  Or, at a party with others watching.)

The lipstick rings placed on the guy’s penis while others watched and cheered?  You barfed in the toilet shortly afterward…  That brought tears to my eyes…  You felt totally degraded, but pressured into doing it.

You got so drunk that you couldn’t move out of the snow bank.  Thankfully, a friend found you before you froze to death.

A few of you have gotten into a car with a drunk driver – and you lived.  I am so glad that you are alive, because you have so much living to do.  If you hadn’t been drunk yourself, you never would have done something so stupid.

I wish I were making this stuff up.   I wish that I could magically make it all disappear, but I can’t.

Here’s what I can tell you.  It’s time to put this behind you.  It’s time to stop, and it’s time for you to know that you have control of the choices you make, and you don’t have to repeat them.

You tell me that you have a reputation now – one you can’t live down – so you just continue with the same behavior, because that is what is expected of you.  But I have to tell you that I know you’re better than that, much, much, much better.  I’m not saying that it is going to be easy.  It’s lousy and unfair.  But it also is life.

The only way to change is if you make a choice to take action by not participating, by saying no.  Respect yourself because you deserve it!

If you need someone to listen or if you have questions, please e-mail me.  I will, G-d willing, be here to cheer you on!  Because no matter what, I believe that you are truly amazing.  whoRuBlog@aol.com

A note from Liza:

Right before I was about to post this blog piece I saw the following article from my aol home page:

TEEN BINGE DRINKING MAY CAUSE BRAIN DAMAGE – Sphere News

http://tinyurl.com/ygv39cp

To learn more about self-esteem issues, please click on the following link: http://www.whorublog.com/?page_id=79 or if you would like to learn more about the five barriers that can influence your life, please click on the following link:  http://www.whorublog.com/?p=12


4 Responses  
Joe Santo writes:
January 25th, 2010 at 5:31 pm

I’m eighteen years old and I really liked the post! Everything you wrote about is so true! My friends binge drink every weekend. I will show this to them. Who knows, maybe they’ll change… Thanks.

Katarina Spajic writes:
February 1st, 2010 at 9:41 pm

I see adults – educated, smart and nice people – give into this addictive weakness of alcohol all the time with no control… It’s just as sad because it started when they were young, and later they try to heal the aftermath scars with medication that completely takes away from the true self!
I think its amazing that you are addressing this, I believe reading about it will open eyes and touch hearts, its like planting a seed of knowledge for future!

Jason writes:
April 17th, 2010 at 1:51 am

Interesting… I see people who know first hand how destructive this is, and STILL choose to subject themselves to this same environment full of weakness and disrespect. What’s more disgraceful? Those whom make the conscious choice, or those whom are addicted?
I see people throw away their entire lives for nothing but a cheap lie. I’ve seen people numb their pain in all kinds of ways, like being completely reckless with their soul and betraying other people who truly loved them.
These imperfect and flawed people who had their very life saved by another person that was just as flawed, have no business using the word “true” in a sentence, or speaking of “true” self…
Those who don’t know the miracle of real love are lost, and the only truth in life is that love overcomes all. Happiness is free, and the soul is priceless. Too bad so many sellout to weaknesses in all forms…

Sara Broers writes:
November 6th, 2010 at 4:08 pm

An informative, straight to the point, honest post! Unfortunately, this is reality for MANY of our teens and young adults in today’s’ world!

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