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Who Is A Frienemy?
July 25th, 2011 by Liza Wiemer

After a few conversations with some teens, I compiled this list to help readers determine whether a friend is really a frienemy. Take a look:

A frienemy…

…goes behind your back, undermines you.

…sabotages your successes.

…will say one thing to your face, then tells someone else the opposite.

…blames you for his poor choices or actions.

…will use subtle and not so subtle putdowns to eat at your self-esteem.

…makes you have self-doubts.

…has to ‘one up’ you all the time.

…shows off.

…encourages failure not success or encourages you to do something that seems unattainable or dangerous.

…tells your secrets.

…laughs at you or makes fun of you, especially in front of others (And often says, “I was joking.” Can’t you take a joke?”)

If you have a frienemy in your life, my advice is to break off this relationship. Clearly, it’s unhealthy.


One Response  
Melissa Smith Abramovich writes:
July 27th, 2011 at 1:05 pm

Melissa Smith Abramovich commented on your post.
Don’t waste your time on toxic people–my two cents.
We have had a lot of discussions (having two teens) about just this. I think you get more discerning as you get older. But sometimes, you don’t have a choice–maybe the person is in your family, or your best friend’s boyfriend. Then you still need to be able to function, in disfunction. Tough lessons.”

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